In today’s world, that often dissects and divides, peace and harmony float to the surface of my mind.
I’m compelled to consciously tune in to the one thing that connects us all; that beautiful thread of perfect love that’s woven into the creation of every living thing on this blue and green earth, whether we embrace it or not. Through our decisions and actions, we tug and pull this thread from the hems of our clothing over time…but the imprint of that love remains forever embedded into the fabric of what we’re made of…regardless of how shredded our ‘attire’ looks…love is always ready to welcome us to home. Not even our interference can affect God’s unwavering love for us.
(I don’t know about you, but that one calls for a moment of silence to even try to understand the gift of that grace.)
As a vocalist, I can ‘see’ and hear the essence of love through the concept of harmony: the melodic merging of two or many singing in one accord, that sends a vibration of synergy in the atmosphere.
Each of our voices is like one note…and when we connect through conversation, the fruit of this sonic connection sends a message that ideally resonates to elevate, and not isolate. Like people, not all notes are ‘friends.’ Each note has a particular relationship to other specific notes, and are incompatible with some (when played simultaneously.) Yet, they exist on one instrument.
Slight techie talk here: Ever heard the musical terms “sharp” and “flat?” Well, ‘sharp’ essentially means singing or playing slightly too high (or above) the actual note you want to deliver. When you’re ‘flat,’ that means you’re singing too low (or beneath) the note. But when you make it – aim for, and hit the exact note – the true note, you create a firm foundation for another voice to be added to the mix, and create harmony.
If one person’s singing the actual note, and the other’s a bit shaky, sharp/flat (pitchy) or wobbly, there’s a discord – and depending on the distance from the correct note, the more ‘icky’ or unpleasant the overall sound. Sometimes, you only recognize this after fine-tuning your ear to distinguishing the distinction between notes, and even if you’re not quite sure it something’s sharp or flat, you’ll recognize, at the very least, whether the notes are harmonizing or not.
Like the dissonance heard when notes “rub against each other” in an unpleasant way, some of the conversations or interactions we have do the same. I’m sure we’ve all had our encounters with conversations that have been awkward, nerve-wracking, tense, or high-volume…think for a moment now on the harmonious conversations you’ve had, and how you felt during and beyond them.
You don’t need to have a great singing voice when you’re a part of a group. Ever noticed how when there’s a mass of people singing with joy, there’s harmony in the air? It doesn’t mean every one has a sweet-sounding tone or is hitting the right note, but through the support of the group, and the shared joy of the moment, there is harmony in unity.
With training, the ear becomes more attuned to the variation in, and location of notes, and with practice the voice reflects what the ear hears and brain learns. Still, some professional singers (like miself) still have moments of slight pitchy-ness; at times we may not hear the note well or it our voice may be a lil croaky that day. This also happens in real life when we’re not being the most patient listeners, or we’re critical and cranky. It’s often reflected in our tone, and our perception of what we hear during the conversations we have.
I want to learn to listen with love and have conversations that resonate in the key of Love…to listen well…without judgment and with wise discernment, to serve better and live in harmony…